Just when I am trying to get over losing my dear friend to the cold hands of death in the United States, a friend sent me a link that gave a list of deceased women, also in the states, whom their so called husbands killed!
This information should be regarded as a wake up call to those out there and loved ones still in Nigeria. Please, Please and Please!!! Try and make use of all the God given senses we have to detect any change in behaviour of your spouse. If you sense 'a rat' or something 'fishy', do not hesitate to let someone closest to you know, better still your closest relative. Even if you don't love yourself, think of your children and those who love you genuinely. You don't have to suffer Domestic Violence just because of what your culture says or your religion. SAVE YOU FIRST! SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE!
In recent times reports of Nigerian men killing their wives has increased in the United States.
Few weeks ago a 33 year old Babatope Owoseni was arrested in East Orange, New Jersey in connection with the death of his wife who was nine months pregnant at the time of her death.
26 year old Fatoumata Owoseni was found unresponsive at the 39 South Munn Avenue apartment she shared with Babatope. The police have not released information on how he allegedly killed her. Babatope has been charged with her murder and is being held without bail at the Essex County Corrections Facility.
This cancer of wife killing by Nigerian husbands is fast spreading, and the Nigerian society is getting numb and used to it, as one of the social maladies of our times. A heinous act, which hitherto would be very abominable that people are shocked to their bone marrows, is today seen with minimal indifference.
Few years ago, another Nigerian Mr. Kelechi Charles Emeruwa, 41, from Old Umuahia, Abia State, was charged with, and convicted of the first-degree murder of his estranged wife, 36-year-old Registered Nurse, Chidiebere Omenihu Ochulo. Kelechi had finally lost it and stabbed his wife, with her own kitchen knife, so many times that the fountains of blood left on Julius Caesar paled in comparison, until she gave up the ghost.
Chidiebere had just returned from her father’s funeral in Nigeria. Kelechi had protested vehemently to what he described as a lavish burial, of course, she wouldn’t hear any of it after-all she made the money. She had the misfortune of returning to an angry, frustrated maniacal husband who took her kitchen knife to her and carved her up. It was on New Year’s Day, in her townhouse in the 4200 block of Dunwood Terrace, in the Silver Spring suburb of Burtonsville in Montgomery County, Maryland.
Recently In Tennessee, a Nigerian man after taking it for so long, lost his cool and shot his Registered Nurse wife as well as his hitherto mother in-law to death with a shot gun. According to the account this RN wife was married from Nigeria a pauper and brought to the United States by this man, who trained her in school as a registered nurse. Soon after her qualification, the demon in her was let loose and it became one torment after another, with one police call after another followed by sleep-over in police cells and it went on and on ad infinitum. After a protracted battle with the authorities at the wife’s instigation, this man lost his almost nearly paid-off home to his wife, including the custody of his three kids by her. He sees these kids just periodically according to court’s order and at the discretionary behest of the wife who sometimes comes to the appointed custody visitation ground at a time of her choosing; just to punish and suffer this man. He could not take it any longer and now the rest is history with two women shot dead and the killer in death row awaiting the electric chair.
Not too long ago, also, in Euless, a suburb of Dallas, another frustrated Nigerian husband, 45-year old Johnny Omorogieva from Edo State, Nigeria murdered his RN wife, Mrs. Isatu Omorogieva, 35, also of Edo State by savagely striking her on the head numerous times with a hammer in the full view of their 7-year old screaming daughter.
In Tulsa, Oklahoma a yet to be fully authenticated report has it that another Nigerian man recently bludgeoned his RN wife to death while she was fast asleep; following a traumatic life which she has subjected him to since turning into the majority bread winner of the family following her graduating from a nursing program.
Another Nigerian nut-case, Mr. John Onwuka, 49, from Akwete community of Ohafia Bende Local Government Area of Abia State was charged with one count each of homicide and use of a knife in the commission of a felony. He stabbed his RN wife of twenty five years, Mrs Gloria Uchechi Anya Onwuka age 42, fourteen times in her bedroom while she was getting ready to go to work. She was a nurse manager. Mr. John Onwuka committed this crime on the night of Saturday August 19, 2006 at the home of his wife in Estate Drive, Farmington, Hampton, Virginia with her children watching him act out his gory insanity.
"Yes I have killed the woman that messed my life up! A woman that had destroyed me. I am at Shalom West, my name is Michael and am all yours". With those words - a 911 call placed to the authorities, another Nigeria man has joined the infamous heinous club of Nigerian Men Wife Killers. Fifty year old Mr. Michael Collins Iheme of Hennepin Minnesota placed the call above few minutes after shooting his twenty eight year old wife, Mrs. Anthonia Eberechi iheme, the mother of his 4 year old boy and 3 year old girl, to death.
The reasons are obvious.A man who has lost control of his home because of his inability to control the finance.The solution is for the women also to be careful because this trend is still on going with a lot of ladies who qualify here and they were being shipped abroad to continue as a Nurse or become a nurse.When the money power gets to the hand of the woman many things could also changed.These same men probably spent their hard earned money to ask for these ladies to come abroad and with the turn of things problem might start.I observed this even when i went to Sweden that Nigerian men come home to pick some ladies who may sometimes be stack illiterate but because in Western Countries women are more empowered and so a change of authority.And my African man no go wan gree o.He must fight to the end.Sometimes the ladies also go wild there targeting the wealth of the man and knowing fully well that at the court they will definitely win because of the children they have with the man.So where do we turn the wheel?I think we all need to also ask the two parties to look closely and carefully before an agreement is signed by the two parties.I rest my case for now.
ReplyDeleteThe other thing is that both parties are involve.They should both think about the gain of the children compare to their personal gain.If they do that things will be easier for both parties.Well also life with God will make both parties do their best and not because of ego from both side.Either one making money and the other broke.There should be a balance and in that way they can work things out.
ReplyDeleteOne of the reasons the men continue to stay in the relationship is because of the interest of the children.The women tend to have change of attitude immediately the man walk out of the relationship.The new partners tend to abuse the children and the woman forgetting her first love also allow them to suffer.So you see the interest of the children are eventually lost.The man also realizing that all his hard earn wealth is about to be taken away will fight to the last and can just make up his mind that rather than lose his wealth to a woman both of them must lose.I recollect the guy i met in Sweden,he hds already lost his house to the woman and the only condition given to him was to send the lady to medical school after the guy sent her to obtain two different Master's degree.She was already dating another guy from London also because the old guy is not educated enough.He was a runs man.Just making money by working 24/7.There is even another man that told me that he brought the wife from Nigeria.The wife's parent were selling padlocks when he came to pick her.But alas the role was reverse when she arrived in Sweden.She went wild took him to court and won.Took possession of his house.Even with that you must pay monthly maintenance to the woman because of your children.So which way to goooo definitely for the man the best option except the one that care for his life is a lose-lose situation.Let the children suffer.So even if the man is mad why don't the woman consider the product of her womb
ReplyDeleteI am very disappointed by the tone and sentiment of articles above. one thing you have to remember is that many Nigerian men beat their wives like they will beat kids, and in this developed country there is nobody to talk to except to call the police. Once the wife call the police Nigerians will start blaming the poor woman that she is calling police on her hubby, and that she is now abroad and going wild.
ReplyDeleteThat one's wife earns more money, I see no big deal! It's this "pride" of "being provided for by a woman that destroys marriages especially in the Western world. If a man thinks his wife is beginning to go "wild" (whatever that means), divorce her! She's someone's child, sister, mother and loved one and doesn't deserve to die a painful death. Again ladies, when it gets violent even if it's a slap, deal with it before its too late. Like I always so, no one can take care of your kids like you would (if you die prematurely
ReplyDeleteThat one's wife earns more money, I see no big deal! It's this "pride" of "being provided for by a woman that destroys marriages especially in the Western world. If a man thinks his wife is beginning to go "wild" (whatever that means), divorce her! She's someone's child, sister, mother and loved one and doesn't deserve to die a painful death. Again ladies, when it gets violent even if it's a slap, deal with it before its too late. Like I always so, no one can take care of your kids like you would (if you die prematurely
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