"My Husband Took My Panties And Bra"

Lol! Do these things still happen?...where someone like your husband will be stealing your "draws"! I thought it was housegirl matter...it's only them that will want to hurt their madam for reasons best known to them.

Please read on.

The Igando Grade 'A' Customary Court had an earful recently when a 39-year-old female Police Inspector, Mary Igah, gave testimony in a divorce suit she instituted against her police officer husband

Mary asked the court to dissolve her 19-year-old marriage for alleged threat to her life.

According to her, Emmanuel, her husband, threatened to deal with her and before she knew what was happening, she found her panties and brassiere in his bag and she did not know where he was taking them.

"My husband took my underwear without my consent; I saw my pant and brassiere in his handbag when he wanted to leave for work. I am scared of staying with him. I no longer feel safe in his house," she said.Mary alleged further that her husband was fond of embarrassing her in public.

"My husband always embarrassed me in public, including my place of work. He would beat me and drag me out of my office while calling me vulgar names.

"Anytime we have issues, he would call me a prostitute."

However, 46-year-old Emmanuel denied the allegations levelled against him by his wife. He alleged that his wife was promiscuous.

"I heard stories about my wife's infidelity, so, I went to her office to find out and fortunately for me, I met her with the man.

"I did not embarrass her, I only excused her from the office and asked what she was doing with the man and she started shouting.

"I did not beat her. In short, I have never raised my hand against her since I married her 19 years ago," he said.Emmanuel appealed to the court not to grant his wife's divorce wish as he still loved her.

After the arguments, the court president, Mr R.I. Adeyeri, adjourned the matter till August 14, for judgment.

Only God knows who is telling the truth amongst them. You love her and yet you want to harm her through juju! What type of stupid dirty love is that?!

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‘I Impregnated Another Woman To Test My Fertility’

I stumbled on this article and just had to share with my fans! Imagine the guts some men have! Why are we women made to accept all sorts of rubbish in our marriages...things we know no Nigerian man will tolerate! Anyway, please continue to read and feel free to comment.

A 40-year-old ex-banker, Mrs. Regina Onuoha, has pleaded with the Alakuko Customary Court to dissolve her marriage with Mr. Paulinus Onuoha, over infidelity.

The couple has been married for 12 years without an issue.

The wife's claim in court was that there was no more love in their marriage as her husband had become so irresponsible and uncaring.

Regina told the court that since she got married to her husband, she had been the one taking care of the house as the husband had been jobless.

She said she rented the apartment they both live in, but with all that, her husband was still cheating on her.

She said the worst of all he did was the fact that he impregnated a woman twice while she (the wife) was still praying for the fruit of the womb.

"I was hopeful after the marriage that I was going to have my own child. I spent all my money on the efforts to have a child, but my husband never cared.

"Four years into our marriage, my husband impregnated a woman and then four years later, he impregnated her again, making two children while I was hoping to have one," she said.

She added that when her father-in-law died, her husband asked her to give him N300,000, but she told him she didn't have so much, that she could only afford N120,000.

"I couldn't afford the N300,000 my husband asked me to give him but I gave him N120,000 for his father's burial, but he asked me not to follow him to the burial, saying I didn't need to be there.

"He did this just to prevent me from running into his other wife and children because he took them to the village for the occasion and he thought I wouldn't know, but I gathered the information from someone in his village," she said.

She asked the court to tell her husband to come and pack his things away from her house as she was tired of the marriage because she didn't have any love for him again.

Her husband, Onuoha, who claimed to be a trader, told the court that all that his wife said was true, and that he was very guilty, but he didn't mean to hurt her. He prostrated to seek her forgiveness in court.

"I didn't mean to impregnate the other woman, it was just that I needed to have a child with my wife and we couldn't produce one, so I went out to test my fertility, to know whether I was or was not fertile enough to have a child," he said.

He added that he was ready to change his behaviour and take care of his wife as he would assist her spiritually, financially and even physically in her effort to have her own children.

"I cannot even be sure or say that the other woman's children are mine because in my tradition, if a woman is not married to a man and she has children for him, the children are not considered his until a proper traditional marriage is done. It is my wife I love, she's the one I want to have a child with, please help me to beg her," he said.

The court president, Mr. Godwin Awosola, told the man to seek God's intervention over his home.

He also told them to maintain the peace and stop abusing each other.

He adjourned the case till August 17, 2013.

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RAISING MY HUSBAND'S CHILD

My husband cheated on me about 10 years ago and got the girl pregnant, I decided to forgive him. The girl had a son for him. Time went by and my husband didn't really want much to do with his son.

My husband would bring him to our house occasionally. Until this year, the girl in question who happens to be a prostitute, abandoned the boy. My husband was forced to bring him in to my house. I accepted it since that was the right thing to do. 

Now the problem is that, I'm not really with my husband. He has found a new girlfriend and has moved out of our matrimonial home. The thing is that not only do I have to raise my 4 kids but now I have to raise my husband's kid as well. His kid, has behavior problems and is really problematic. I have been doing a pretty good job (I think) of raising mine because they are so well behaved and don't have major behavior problems. Now, other people would be thinking, why I'm stupid and taking on this other responsibility since its not really my job to. But that's the same question I ask myself everyday too. It is very hard for me to just say I don't want to raise him anymore. I just can't, because this little boy already lost his mom to prostitution and his dad doesn't really want anything to do with him and his other family have abandoned him. 

I almost took him to an orphanage but changed my mind because my conscience couldn't handle it. I really want to be there for him but at the same time it is very hard to be able to deal with 5 kids. Should I just give up and let him go to foster parents, maybe he will get the help he needs and the attention he is asking for, since I can't really do much because I already have 4 of my own to raise. Or should I just hang in there and try to correct his behavior and try to make an impact in his life. 

I came to this site for advise not for judgmental comments. The reason is that it is harder to raise this type of child! At school he got expelled last year, this year, the only reason he didn't was because I know the principal at his new school and he gave him so many chances but was suspended so many times. I had to get out of work on many ocassions to go pick him up and take him home. He also got kicked out of the after school program I had enrolled him in and had to beg a neighbour to watch him after school in which I had complaints almost everyday. 

Now at the summer school my kids attend and in which I enrolled him, he fights with other kids there too. Now the proprietor is threatening to suspend him! At home he likes to fight with my own kids as well, but if I keep an eye on him constantly it helps a lot. 

My kids have never been suspended or sent to the principal's office, they have honor rolls, perfect attendance, my oldest daughter did well in her SSCE exams.  Teachers at the school always tell me they wish they had more kids like mine. But its because I raised my kids to be this way. So not being used to my step son's type of behavior problems like he has is very stressful. I wasn't trained for it and I'm learning as I carry on.

My husband and I are not together anymore, he doesn't come around at all and has basically left all the responsibility to me. I've always had to raise my own whenever he fools around and so I'm used to doing it on my own, but I feel defeated trying to raise my step son. I do love him and would like the best for him, but I feel like I'm not cut out to do it and I feel because I don't know how to deal with him, I am hurting him more.