Friday, April 25, 2014

I AM DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH MY STEP MOTHER

There is nothing that someone will not hear...Oh!!

Dear NHW,
I know I am a guy and most guys don't usually read blogs. But I love your style of writing and have decided to bring my problem to you.

I am a 35year old man who is single but not really searching. You may ask why. It is because I have fallen in love with my step mother, who I am 5 years older than. When I think about it, I simply laugh. I lost my mother at an early age and my father refused to marry again until 2 years ago. When my father announced he was getting married, the family was very happy but what we didn't know, was that he was getting married to someone 30 years younger than him.

Her marriage to my father is that of convenience. After she narrated how her mother more or else 'sold' her off to my father, I think that was when I knew I had something for her. You see, my step mother's mum works in my father's company. Her mum is also a widow who has carried a lot of burden for quite sometime and my father marrying her daughter (my step mother), would help settle some debts she acquired over the years. See, I am not trying to make excuses for my stepmother or the fact that we are in a deeply serious relationship.

Everyday is like torture for me knowing that she is with my dad and she feels the same way too. We are planning to break the News of our relationship to my father, even though we have considered eloping. The problem now is finding the courage to tell my father and when do you think is the right time?

First and foremost my dear reader, guys read blogs. Secondly, your relationship with your step mother is totally wrong, whether or not she is older or younger than you. And if truly, your father's marriage to your step mother is one of convenience, then, I think you should confirm that with him and come out straight.

Well, let's hear what others think....

9 BEAUTY HABITS THAT GIVE YOU WRINKLES!

Nobody wants to age! Lol! But whether you like it or not, there is no escaping it! The fact here is that, even if we have to age, let it happen slowly and beautifully. When I stumbled on this article (womenshealthmag.com), I thought of my women folks, 'cos we are the ones that are hit hard. The men sure know how to prevent or slow down the ageing process (Please, don't ask me how...before I start 'vomiting').

I am definitely guilty of the sugar one (only God will help me)

Read on...

Wrinkles are a part of aging—and life. While we know to expect wrinkles as we get older, some of the battle has nothing to do with age. Your beauty routines and habits can impact wrinkling as well. See the bad habits that affect your skin's aging process so you can cut them out ASAP.
Smoking
Smoking is the most common cause of wrinkles. "There have been studies of twins that showed proof of this in stunning detail," says Joel Schlessinger, M.D., a board-certified dermatologist and cosmetic surgeon and founder of LovelySkin.com. "So skip cigarettes and lose the wrinkles!"
Your Diet
If you want to keep your skin healthy and young, the old saying that you are what you eat is definitely true. Eating too much sugar and high-glycemic foods doesn't just impact your weight—it could make you look older, too. "Through a damaging process called glycation, sugar molecules attach to the proteins in your skin (including collagen), causing them to become stiff and malformed," says Roshini Rajapaksa, M.D., a gastroenterologist, balanced health advocate, and co-founder of TULA. "This results in a loss of facial elasticity, as well as contours, puffiness, and fine lines. Refined sugar and other simple carbohydrates also trigger inflammation throughout the body by causing insulin levels to skyrocket. Inflammation produces enzymes that break down collagen and elastin, which leads to sagging and wrinkles." So cut down on refined sugar and simple carbohydrates—your skin will thank you!
Drinking
All alcohol dehydrates the skin, explains James C. Marotta, M.D., a dual-board-certified facial plastic surgeon. This means your skin will appear less plump and fresh the morning after you drink alcohol. Over time, your skin will lose elasticity and form wrinkles due to a lack of hydration. "Additionally, alcohol can have a huge negative impact on your vitamin A level, which is a very important antioxidant for your skin and body, and it is vital in the regeneration of new cells. Vitamin A is also extremely important in the production of collagen. When you have lower amounts of collagen, you lose elasticity in your skin," says Marotta. Collagen and elasticity keep your skin supple, taut, and looking young.
Chewing Gum
"Gum chewing produces a type of wrinkle that I see quite often on the lower mouth," says Schlessinger. Additionally, it causes other issues in the mouth structure. This is an easy habit to give up in the name of preserving your skin.
Not Removing Makeup
When you sleep in your makeup, you're basically asking for wrinkles. The makeup and environmental pollutants you accumulate during the day seep into your pores, breaking down collagen and elastin. This can speed up the aging process and leave you with fine lines and wrinkles. Cleanse and moisturize your skin every night before bed.
Picking 
Stop picking at pesky zits, and let them come out on their own or use natural products to help eliminate them. Any time you pick or pull at your skin, you're causing damage and creating irritation, scars, and yes, even wrinkles.
Stretching Your Skin to Apply Makeup 
This practice creates wrinkles—and is generally frowned upon in the makeup world. "You should do your makeup how everyone else is going to see you, and hopefully it's not with your mouth stretched opened and eyebrows lifted so you can put on your mascara," says makeup artist Donna Kelly. "Don't pull on your eyes and stretch them so you can put on your eyeliner. It's about moving your whole face when you're applying makeup, not stretching it so it's flat."
Skipping Sunscreen
We've all been told to never skip the sunscreen, but it's often tempting when many of us spend our days indoors. Even a few minutes of sun exposure can lead to a breakdown of collagen, though, and that leads to fine lines and wrinkles. "Wear sunscreen every day, rain or shine, so that you don't get sun damage. Choose an SPF 30 and one that has zinc oxide or titanium dioxide," says Debra Jaliman, M.D., a New York-based dermatologist and author of Skin Rules.
Sleeping
If you sleep on your face, you can get sleep wrinkles from the pillow. "It's best to sleep on a satin pillowcase that slides across your face," says Jaliman. "The other alternative is to sleep on your back."


Wednesday, April 23, 2014

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE BEATEN UP BY YOUR CHILD?

It is important I talk about this now because I won't lie it does cross my mind. My son is just 10+years old (almost 11years old in a few weeks) and so you may think I have nothing to worry about! Right?...Wrong!

A lot of us parents, forget that our kids are growing and fast having a mind of their own. And in doing so, some parents are having a tough time getting their teen kids to conform to rules and regulations in the home. Well, my advice is that, if you are in a habit of using 'koboko' a.k.a 'bulala' a.k.a 'mr-do-good' , please stop and devise a method of correcting him or her, especially when you notice your child is taller and bigger than you, the parent!

I am worried because of an article I came across, where a mother in a state in Nigeria, was flogging her 15 year old son and then suddenly, the child retaliated by beating the mother up, black and blue. His mother was not only humiliated but was filled with rage. She went into the house and got a machete to use on him and when she came out with it, her son took to his heels. When she couldn't reach him, she flung the machete at him...and you can only imagine what happened next! An irreversible or should I say irreparable damage?!  The boy died almost immediately from the deep cuts sustained. His mother was so shocked that she fled into the bush and is still at large.

It's sad because deep inside me, I know she didn't mean to...#devil'shandwork. Anger is a devil on it's own and so when you see you are getting to the point where your child has pushed you to the edge, so much so that you feel like strangling him/her. That is the devil! Just shout a loud "Blood of Jesus"...trust me it works! Lol!!       *Abeeegi! Why should you allow it get to that point? Put yourself together joor!*

So, parents, this is a wake-up call. As your kids get older, try and learn to use your mouth and not your hands to talk!

May we never experience this IJN. Amen.