For starters, I have no problem with 'Re-marriages', my own is that, if you must marry and settle to be a second wife, do not ignore the role of the first wife in your wishful 'blissful' marriage! There are many reasons why you cannot afford to ignore her 'importance' in your 'happiness'. Because if your marriage fails, you will somehow end up saying she use 'jazz' or 'juju' to destroy it.
Come, let me even ask you that wants to be come a 2nd wife, "So you mean to tell me that you will say I DO without finding out from the previous wife what went wrong?" You think that because your husband to be has given you his own version of the 'truth', that sums up the whole story?! Right?...Well, wrong!
This thing we call 'Love' should wear glasses and contact lenses, if you ask me. A lot of women 'leap without looking' for reasons best known to them. In your mind, you may be feeling like a tag-team with your husband to be, maybe because you feel like by being on his side, he will love you more...You are just a fool and nothing more! Be original! Don't let this thing you call 'Love' cloud your judgement or your thinking faculty!
Granted, some women are bad, as in a.k.a horrible, terrible...in fact, vampires, witches...the list is endless. But let that 'Conlusion' or 'Judgement' come from you and only you! Your husband to be doesn't have to be the one to draw that conclusion for you. See for yourself and marry both sides' gist. Whether you like it or not, you are caught in the middle of all the brouhaha!
Haven't you seen situations whereby the husband loves the 1st wife so much that when they have some misunderstanding, he goes out to get a 'competition' who happens to be a 2nd wife, just to get back at her! And you, mumu 2nd wife, you will enter 'hook, line and sinker', feeling loved up! It is when you enter that you will see that it is not what it is! Meanwhile, if you the 2nd wife had had patience and done you investigation very well from the 1st wife, you wouldn't have entered one chance!
On a final note, because I don't want to sound like a broken horse, 2nd wife, 1st wife is not your enemy! Once you meet a man who happens to have been married before and you are lucky is 1st wife is alive, please sought her out, and get some information from her. Remember that somebody else has tasted that thing you want to have. Do not see her as your rival or enemy!
Go by the saying "Draw your friends close and your enemies closer".
Please don't ask me about women who end up as 3rd or 4th or 5th, etc wives... *lips are tightly sealed*...Please, I beg you not to let me say anything!
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