TOTS 'N' COTS' SUMMER IMAGINARIUM

Wondering what to do with your young ones this summer?

Wondering where to keep them while you get back to work? 

Wonder no more! Tots 'n' Cots to the rescue. The holiday is just too long to leave these kids to their vices. There is just so much to learn and do! 

Registration is on! 

IMAGINE COMING HOME AND CATCHING YOUR BABY-SITTER SEXUALLY MOLESTING YOUR CHILD?

This is one of the scariest situation in which a parent prays never to find him or herself in. Imagine entrusting your innocent child in the hands of someone you are supposed to trust so that you can hustle, and at the end of the month pay this person. Only for that person to leave what he was employed for and be doing another thing! It's really painful. 

Meanwhile, if you have a female child, it's normal to think she will be safer with a female child minder and same for the male child, you would think, he should be safer with a male child minder, right? Wrong! 

See what happened to the fool in the pics below. The fool is supposed to be a baby-sitter for an 11year old. Unfortunately for him, and fortunately for his boss, he was caught red-handed sexually molesting his Oga's 11year old son! So the Oga did what any other parent in this situation would do...beat the fool to a pulp! He almost killed the guy save for his son who came to his rescue. Anyway, the man called the police to arrest the fool and adviced them to get an ambulance for the idiot since he was unconscious at that point. *hehehe* 

It was later learnt that the idiot had been molesting the boy for about 3years now. 

Come oh, and this man's son no talk?! I fear children of this days. 

May he rot where ever he is! Oshisco!

WHEN WILL ALL THESE MADNESS END?!

I am kinda getting weary of opening stuff on the internet and the first message that says "Hi" to me are stories violence on women...getting tired of it, really!

Okay! I guess I can't escape being 'battered' for running away for so long and not apologizing. I promise to make amends but please what ever sin I may have committed, do not, I repeat, do not break up with me! 

This is a story I picked up from Sahara Reporters and thought I should share with y'all...

Mrs. Fatima Bankole, 34, was battered by her husband, Alhaji Kamoru Bankole, for taking piece of fish from the pot to break her fast.

The victim is first of three wives of Alhaji Kamoru, at residing at Hasan Close, Alasia, Ijanikin in Lagos State. 

Fatima BankoleThe bruising attack happened on  the 16th of July, when the third wife reported to their husband that their senior wife took fish from the soup to break her fast. The husband, according to witnesses, did not listen to her excuse before attacking her. 

According to the victim, Mrs. Fatima Bankole, their husband had always physically abused her, but the incidence of  July 16th was more brutal. 

She narrated that they had made a roster between two wives, due to the absence of the third wife who was away at the period, to cook for 15 days each. The victim said she had completed her period, and it was turn of the last wife. She said they would normally serve the husband first, followed by the children before the wives would serve themselves.

On the day she was to be attacked, Mrs. Fatima said the last wife had finished her cooking and served their husband and the children. She then went for her own meal. 

But soon after, the last wife complained to her husband that Fatima took a larger chunk of the fish in the pot. Their husband, Alhaji Kamoru Bankole, queried her, but she said that she only took a little out of it, stating that the fish was in pieces and mixed in the stew. Her explanations, however, got her in trouble with their husband. Alhaji Kamoru, she details, delivered several punches to her face. She said she bled for hours and was further locked up in a room for three days before she escaped. 

She said neighbors then took her to the hospital for treatment. That was the cruelest from her history of experience of assault by their husband, Mrs. Fatima said. From experiences she recounted, she recalled how her hair was pulled out of her head, which resulted in grievous head injuries. 

Saharareporters learned that police have now arrested the husband, following outcry and petitions by the Women Arise civil group in Lagos. He will be arraigned in court next week.

Na wah O. 

Follow me on twitter @naijahousewife and add #EndDomesticViolence if you want to say something related to this topic. 

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NAIJAHOUSEWIFE HAS A NEW BBM PIN!

Hey Guys! It's been a while, I know! *covering my face in shame*

Let the conversation continue please...

A lot has been going on...my plate and cup being full and all! *hehehe*

Trust me when I say, this time around...it's going down, mehn! LOL!

So just go ahead and add me...you know you want to!!

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OPEN INVITATION TO NAIJAHOUSEWIFE HANGOUT

Naijahousewife is sending out an open invitation to her very first HANGOUT, where 'sisters' meet 'sisters'! 

It was borne out of the need to create an avenue for Nigerian women to bond. There is a growing need for us to be our sisters-keepers. I know we live in a 'Culture of Silence, where we watch women being emotionally, physically and mentally abused, especially our girl child. 

A recent Harvard Study showed that women who supported themselves socially had a better mental and physical well being and tend to have better quality life and longer life span. 

Come, let's save what is left of our dignity and better rule the world in which we rock the cradle! 

Come let's TALK ABOUT IT. Let's encourage, motivate and inspire each other. 

VENUE: THE KAIROS LIFESTYLE CENTRE, No 13, Oseni Close, Off Modupe Johnson Crescent, Off Adeniran Ogunsanya, Surulere, Lagos.

DATE: 3rd August, 2014 ( actually every first Sunday of the month)

TIME: 3PM to 5PM

HIGHLIGHTS:

- Health Talk on Fertility and other Reproductive Health Issues

- Dealing with the Stigma of Fertility Issues

- Diets and Exercise that Enhance Fertility

- Beauty Tips

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Emails for seat reservations will close on 29th July, 2014.

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Keep a date with us and your life will never be the same again!

NAIJAHOUSEWIFE HANGOUT   ...come and be transformed! 

CRITICISM CAN BE A WEDGE IN A MARRIAGE!

Not just criticism but Negative Criticism!

Some couples may not know this. It is one thing to point out the faults of the other person and it is another to profer solutions to the problem. 

I am sure a lot of people can handle criticisms but not after, as far as I am concerned, judging someone negatively, you will refuse to provide solution. The annoying thing about this criticizing matter, the spouse criticizing you cannot do a better job O! 

I know some people who derive joy in putting their spouses down in public when they could have spoken privately about it...whatever that 'it' is. 

On a final note, whoever you are, be you wife or husband, who is fond of negatively and non-constructively criticizing, here are some tips on breaking this bad habit:

1. Give many options for solving flaw(s)

2. If your spouse can't seem to arrive at a definite solution, offer your assistance.

3. When and if the solution or decision has been taken, end the matter!

Thank you. 

IMAGINE IF THIS HAPPENED TO YOU?!

Imagine, if you were in a hurry but you needed to dash to the market for a quick 'buy' and you got into a queue to pay for the stuff...and you are waiting patiently for a queue that unknowing to you...ain't moving!!

Trust me, you are free to "Cry me A River!"....at this point!

You feel the anger and frustrations of waiting so long building up...only to realize you've been waiting in line with the mannequins! 

 LMAO!

HELP! MY HUSBAND IS A MOVING HOUSE!!

ROTFL!!

There is nothing somebody will not hear! Just when I'm thinking my husband is the only one that has major 'issues', I get a mail from another woman whose husband's plate I think is 'full'...Lol!

Read on, 

Dear NHW, 

I hope this mail gets to you and you publish it, but please do not put my name.

I have a serious marital problem that I can't keep to my self anymore and it is about my husband. 

Funnily, the problem has always been there even before I got married to him, but I thought it was a mere joke then because he was a bachelor. The problem is that he always moves around with a traveling bag filled with all the necessities you can imagine, at the trunk of his car. In the traveling bag, you will see toothbrush, toothpaste, soap, comb, clean shirts, trousers, and boxers, not to mention 'mini-breakfast' stuffs like coffee, milk, sugar and a mug! 

Please, what type of husband does that?! As far as I am concerned, only a philandering type of husband would do that! I have approached him on the subject and instead of being repentant, he tries to justify his actions! He claims his job is the type that insists that he must be ready to travel at anytime!   NHW, what kind of stupid job?! As if I do not know the type of job he does! Granted, sometimes his job entails traveling because he is an auditor by profession and if he travels, it may be like once in three months but not to the extent of leaving a traveling bag in the trunk of a car permanently!

NHW, you know why I do not believe or trust him, he sometimes spends the weekend outside our marital home even without the office sending him and no apologies! That is not right! He is making to turn to something else O! He comes back late from wherever and still expects me to enter the kitchen! Well, I've told him that enough is enough, so my curfew for the kitchen starts at 9pm. Any time later than that, he is on his own!

So I need advice, on how to approach this matter because I am running out of patience! I need husbands especially to advice me on how to advice their 'colleague'.

Thank you. 

*Choi Choi Choi Choi Choi* But Husband(s) why now?! Please if I may ask "what kind of *cough cough...se you get?!* is so sweet that it has to keep you away from your family talk less of your home?" ...#justaskingO

The beginning of love for *cough cough...se you get?!* is the downfall of a man!!

Fellow readers, over to you because this one heavy small for me. Asking this husband to stop putting the travel bag in his car will be so cliche! 

Any way dear, just calm down. Being worked up won't allow you have a clear head and reason things out properly. One thing is for sure, look for a time when HE IS AT HOME AND RELAXING to talk to him about how you feel and if you guys can work out a solution or at least meet somewhere in the middle. Reacting negatively to the situation, is not going to help matters...you go just jam 'aja okuta'!

Prayer, lest I forget, always plays a major role in all situations! From prayers, you can draw wisdom to help you deal with your present situation. And don't forget to examine yourself, there might be something you are doing that may be pushing him away. He will not tell you if you are expecting that. Men can be babies, they usually have a problem expressing themselves except to throw 'Tantrums'!

House O!...comments please

INTENDING SECOND WIFE, PLEASE GET DETAILS OF YOUR MAN FROM FIRST WIFE! (A MUST READ)

No pun intended here, Biko!

For starters, I have no problem with 'Re-marriages', my own is that, if you must marry and settle to be a second wife, do not ignore the role of the first wife in your wishful 'blissful' marriage! There are many reasons why you cannot afford to ignore her 'importance' in your 'happiness'. Because if your marriage fails, you will somehow end up saying she use 'jazz' or 'juju' to destroy it.

Come, let me even ask you that wants to be come a 2nd wife, "So you mean to tell me that you will say I DO without finding out from the previous wife what went wrong?" You think that because your husband to be has given you his own version of the 'truth', that sums up the whole story?! Right?...Well, wrong!

This thing we call 'Love' should wear glasses and contact lenses, if you ask me. A lot of women 'leap without looking' for reasons best known to them. In your mind, you may be feeling like a tag-team with your husband to be, maybe because you feel like by being on his side, he will love you more...You are just a fool and nothing more! Be original! Don't let this thing you call 'Love' cloud your judgement or your thinking faculty!

Granted, some women are bad, as in a.k.a horrible, terrible...in fact, vampires, witches...the list is endless. But let that 'Conlusion' or 'Judgement' come from you and only you! Your husband to be doesn't have to be the one to draw that conclusion for you. See for yourself and marry both sides' gist. Whether you like it or not, you are caught in the middle of all the brouhaha!

Haven't you seen situations whereby the husband loves the 1st wife so much that when they have some misunderstanding, he goes out to get a 'competition' who happens to be a 2nd wife, just to get back at her! And you, mumu 2nd wife, you will enter 'hook, line and sinker', feeling loved up! It is when you enter that you will see that it is not what it is! Meanwhile, if you the 2nd wife had had patience and done you investigation very well from the 1st wife, you wouldn't have entered one chance!

On a final note, because I don't want to sound like a broken horse, 2nd wife, 1st wife is not your enemy! Once you meet a man who happens to have been married before and you are lucky is 1st wife is alive, please sought her out, and get some information from her. Remember that somebody else has tasted that thing you want to have. Do not see her as your rival or enemy! 

Go by the saying "Draw your friends close and your enemies closer".

Please don't ask me about women who end up as 3rd or 4th or 5th, etc wives... *lips are tightly sealed*...Please, I beg you not to let me say anything!

DINO MELAYE'S FAILED SECOND MARRIAGE

Please, please! Before you fellow 'housewives' crucify me about carrying another woman's gist (even though part of what we do here is gossip!), the intention is to actually learn something from other people's experience and not merely to gossip.

I am sure by now, it is common knowledge that Dino Melaye's second marriage to Alero Falope has crashed. Read here..

 What?...that you don't know who he is?... know him here and then read about most of the gists that trail him here and here

The moral of this story is that "Women who intend to be second wives should please investigate the man you want to marry from his former or first wife before you say "I do" or else you can enter one chance!

Actually, that is my next blog post! *Hehehe*