I AM DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH MY STEP MOTHER

There is nothing that someone will not hear...Oh!!

Dear NHW,
I know I am a guy and most guys don't usually read blogs. But I love your style of writing and have decided to bring my problem to you.

I am a 35year old man who is single but not really searching. You may ask why. It is because I have fallen in love with my step mother, who I am 5 years older than. When I think about it, I simply laugh. I lost my mother at an early age and my father refused to marry again until 2 years ago. When my father announced he was getting married, the family was very happy but what we didn't know, was that he was getting married to someone 30 years younger than him.

Her marriage to my father is that of convenience. After she narrated how her mother more or else 'sold' her off to my father, I think that was when I knew I had something for her. You see, my step mother's mum works in my father's company. Her mum is also a widow who has carried a lot of burden for quite sometime and my father marrying her daughter (my step mother), would help settle some debts she acquired over the years. See, I am not trying to make excuses for my stepmother or the fact that we are in a deeply serious relationship.

Everyday is like torture for me knowing that she is with my dad and she feels the same way too. We are planning to break the News of our relationship to my father, even though we have considered eloping. The problem now is finding the courage to tell my father and when do you think is the right time?

First and foremost my dear reader, guys read blogs. Secondly, your relationship with your step mother is totally wrong, whether or not she is older or younger than you. And if truly, your father's marriage to your step mother is one of convenience, then, I think you should confirm that with him and come out straight.

Well, let's hear what others think....

9 BEAUTY HABITS THAT GIVE YOU WRINKLES!

Nobody wants to age! Lol! But whether you like it or not, there is no escaping it! The fact here is that, even if we have to age, let it happen slowly and beautifully. When I stumbled on this article (womenshealthmag.com), I thought of my women folks, 'cos we are the ones that are hit hard. The men sure know how to prevent or slow down the ageing process (Please, don't ask me how...before I start 'vomiting').

I am definitely guilty of the sugar one (only God will help me)

Read on...

Wrinkles are a part of aging—and life. While we know to expect wrinkles as we get older, some of the battle has nothing to do with age. Your beauty routines and habits can impact wrinkling as well. See the bad habits that affect your skin's aging process so you can cut them out ASAP.

Smoking
Smoking is the most common cause of wrinkles. "There have been studies of twins that showed proof of this in stunning detail," says Joel Schlessinger, M.D., a board-certified dermatologist and cosmetic surgeon and founder of LovelySkin.com. "So skip cigarettes and lose the wrinkles!"

Your Diet
If you want to keep your skin healthy and young, the old saying that you are what you eat is definitely true. Eating too much sugar and high-glycemic foods doesn't just impact your weight—it could make you look older, too. "Through a damaging process called glycation, sugar molecules attach to the proteins in your skin (including collagen), causing them to become stiff and malformed," says Roshini Rajapaksa, M.D., a gastroenterologist, balanced health advocate, and co-founder of TULA. "This results in a loss of facial elasticity, as well as contours, puffiness, and fine lines. Refined sugar and other simple carbohydrates also trigger inflammation throughout the body by causing insulin levels to skyrocket. Inflammation produces enzymes that break down collagen and elastin, which leads to sagging and wrinkles." So cut down on refined sugar and simple carbohydrates—your skin will thank you!

Drinking
All alcohol dehydrates the skin, explains James C. Marotta, M.D., a dual-board-certified facial plastic surgeon. This means your skin will appear less plump and fresh the morning after you drink alcohol. Over time, your skin will lose elasticity and form wrinkles due to a lack of hydration. "Additionally, alcohol can have a huge negative impact on your vitamin A level, which is a very important antioxidant for your skin and body, and it is vital in the regeneration of new cells. Vitamin A is also extremely important in the production of collagen. When you have lower amounts of collagen, you lose elasticity in your skin," says Marotta. Collagen and elasticity keep your skin supple, taut, and looking young.

Chewing Gum
"Gum chewing produces a type of wrinkle that I see quite often on the lower mouth," says Schlessinger. Additionally, it causes other issues in the mouth structure. This is an easy habit to give up in the name of preserving your skin.

Not Removing Makeup
When you sleep in your makeup, you're basically asking for wrinkles. The makeup and environmental pollutants you accumulate during the day seep into your pores, breaking down collagen and elastin. This can speed up the aging process and leave you with fine lines and wrinkles. Cleanse and moisturize your skin every night before bed.

Picking 
Stop picking at pesky zits, and let them come out on their own or use natural products to help eliminate them. Any time you pick or pull at your skin, you're causing damage and creating irritation, scars, and yes, even wrinkles.

Stretching Your Skin to Apply Makeup 
This practice creates wrinkles—and is generally frowned upon in the makeup world. "You should do your makeup how everyone else is going to see you, and hopefully it's not with your mouth stretched opened and eyebrows lifted so you can put on your mascara," says makeup artist Donna Kelly. "Don't pull on your eyes and stretch them so you can put on your eyeliner. It's about moving your whole face when you're applying makeup, not stretching it so it's flat."

Skipping Sunscreen
We've all been told to never skip the sunscreen, but it's often tempting when many of us spend our days indoors. Even a few minutes of sun exposure can lead to a breakdown of collagen, though, and that leads to fine lines and wrinkles. "Wear sunscreen every day, rain or shine, so that you don't get sun damage. Choose an SPF 30 and one that has zinc oxide or titanium dioxide," says Debra Jaliman, M.D., a New York-based dermatologist and author of Skin Rules.

Sleeping
If you sleep on your face, you can get sleep wrinkles from the pillow. "It's best to sleep on a satin pillowcase that slides across your face," says Jaliman. "The other alternative is to sleep on your back."

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE BEATEN UP BY YOUR CHILD?

It is important I talk about this now because I won't lie it does cross my mind. My son is just 10+years old (almost 11years old in a few weeks) and so you may think I have nothing to worry about! Right?...Wrong!

A lot of us parents, forget that our kids are growing and fast having a mind of their own. And in doing so, some parents are having a tough time getting their teen kids to conform to rules and regulations in the home. Well, my advice is that, if you are in a habit of using 'koboko' a.k.a 'bulala' a.k.a 'mr-do-good' , please stop and devise a method of correcting him or her, especially when you notice your child is taller and bigger than you, the parent!

I am worried because of an article I came across, where a mother in a state in Nigeria, was flogging her 15 year old son and then suddenly, the child retaliated by beating the mother up, black and blue. His mother was not only humiliated but was filled with rage. She went into the house and got a machete to use on him and when she came out with it, her son took to his heels. When she couldn't reach him, she flung the machete at him...and you can only imagine what happened next! An irreversible or should I say irreparable damage?!  The boy died almost immediately from the deep cuts sustained. His mother was so shocked that she fled into the bush and is still at large.

It's sad because deep inside me, I know she didn't mean to...#devil'shandwork. Anger is a devil on it's own and so when you see you are getting to the point where your child has pushed you to the edge, so much so that you feel like strangling him/her. That is the devil! Just shout a loud "Blood of Jesus"...trust me it works! Lol!!       *Abeeegi! Why should you allow it get to that point? Put yourself together joor!*

So, parents, this is a wake-up call. As your kids get older, try and learn to use your mouth and not your hands to talk!

May we never experience this IJN. Amen.

SEE THE MESS THESE MARRIED MEN GOT THEMSELVES INTO!

Na wah O!

Someone will marry a man finish, hoping that he will be responsible enough to face his work, make money and take care of his family, especially his wife who stood by him through thick and thin! But No! The minute his wife turns her back or decides to go to church to gather more blessings for the family, 'uncle' will end up doing what he is not supposed to be doing. Aahn ahn!!!

What will it profit a husband to gain a beautiful prayerful wife who provides a home(not a house O!)and lose his entire being to 'meow'!

Even now that everyone knows (including our children)how dangerous the Internet is, some husbands still foolishly and stupidly pick up rotten girls from dating sites. Who does that?! What is it that the dead cursed 'animal' has that your wife cannot give you and more. Instead of husbands to join their wives in prayer, they choose to die inside 'meow'!

Just read how these poor successful husbands were wasted...years of hard work wasted ... to Internet miscreants. And they got these husbands cheap, no be small!

Read on....

The late Shell manager, Mr. Progress Benin Disi, went missing on March 7, while Shola Olaseinde, the businessman got missing on March 26. Police, it was gathered, were initially working on kidnap until investigation led them to the discovery of a syndicate said to specialise in luring people, especially rich men through dating sites with a view to ripping them off.

The detectives reportedly opened communication with the gang and were able to arrest five of them including a pregnant woman. The expectant mother, it was learnt, was the bait used by the gang to engage their victims in sweet talks by phone. The leader of the group identified as, Micheal Eneji a 27 year- old footballer said they were unaware of Olaseinde’s death until their arrest. Asked how they killed their victims, he said: “We will take their ATM cards and go to the bank with the pin number they gave us and begin to withdraw N100, 000 every day until the account is blocked. “We did not know that Olaseinde and Disi were unable to untie themselves like others before them and escape”.

He blamed his involvement in crime on hard times. “When I couldn’t afford to pay my school fees, I decided to go into love dating scam. I dwell mainly on Badoo that many Nigerian men visit regularly. “I surf the net and select pictures of black models and impersonate them by using them as my own so that the men will think they are dealing with a woman. As soon as they see the picture, some send a message to me and I will respond. “They will ask for my number and I will give them. I have a Techno phone that has a special voice prompt that allows a man to sound like a woman. “Once I establish contact, I will go to the next step which is to convince them that I will satisfy their sexual urge. Pretending to be a big girl, I will tell them to meet me at a petrol station on Eleme Road while one of my boys, Chibueze, will go there and meet them as my domestic servant and direct them to my house. “To convince them to come, I will claim that I live in one of the estates alone and it will be safer to meet there so that they will not be caught by their wives or girlfriends.

While in their cars, Chibueze will tell them to drive towards a deserted place where we would lay ambush for them, dressed in police uniforms. We will stop them and demand to know what they are doing in such a deserted place. “We will over power them and tie their hands and legs while we take their valuables including their ATM card. “Two of us will go the bank and withdraw money from their account through their ATM. If there no much money in the account, we will release loosen the rope and disappear this will enable the person to untie himself and go home.” Eneji confessed that the gang had defrauded a lot of men before they were arrested. He said that the gang kept Olaseinde and Disi for several days to enable them (gang) deplete their ‘huge’ accounts.

On how Olaseinde was killed, he said: “I told him to come around 7pm and he told me that it was the perfect time to hang out. At about that time, he drove to the spot with his driver and Chibueze who was on ground joined him. “He directed them to the spot and we took over the car, tied him and his driver up. He did not have much cash with unlike the others. When we got to the bank, I realized that he had about N4.5million naira in his account. “Blindfolded, we took him further into the bush and decided to keep there for some days to enable us empty that account. A few days later we were arrested. I never knew that he did not escape. “The second victim, Mr Disi was not my contract. It was Elijah the leader of another group that contracted me to help execute the job. I became interested when he told me that the maga (late Disi) worked in Shell Petroleum. “All I did was to lure him to visit by promising him good sex. I do not know if they killed him because of the huge amount that was found in his account.

The truth is that we do not kill, but rob them of their valuables. We will sell the car, withdraw as much as we can from their accounts and disappear. We know that such crime might not be reported because the man will not tell his family or the police why he was robbed to protect his image. “It is unfortunate that they died; they were still breathing when we left them there. The only difference is that we did not loosen the rope so that they could easily escape.” On the role of the lady in their midst, Eneji said: “She is my fiancée and I normally use her to further convince our target to assume that we are real. If the target insists that I should come and see him, I will send my girl to go and meet him. She would be the one that will lure them to the spot where we can take over.” He goes by the names Cindy and Empress on Badoo.

“Once you search for beautiful models on Goggle search, you will have so many options. If you want so many toasters, select the ones that expose their breast. I am terribly sorry that these men died in the process. We found out that it is easier to collect money in exchange for sex. I dropped out of school because my rich relatives refused to help my mother to train us. I can only get money from them if I send a woman to go and seduce them. I am terribly sorry.” A member of the gang , Lekia Emmaden Isaac, said his own duty was to tie their victims. He said: “We have done that severally and when we return, we found that they have escaped. “I did not kill Olaseinde. All I did was to tie him up very well so that he would not escape immediately. I was shocked when I heard that he was found dead. It is possible that a snake attacked him since he was kept in a deserted area.”

Chibueze, a 17 year-old, who acted as domestic servant said his duty was just to take the victim to a spot where they would be attacked by the other members of the gang. “I did not participate in the main robbery; all I did was to take the suspect to the point where he would be robbed.” Gift Princess, the expectant mother said: “Olaseinde called, requesting that I should direct him. I then told him that my domestic servant would wait for him at the agreed spot. “He later called back complaining that he was not comfortable with the route that they passed through. Unfortunately, he was already at the spot and my fiancé, Eneji and others took over from there. “ I was only helping my husband to raise enough money to pay for my bride price.” The State Command Commissioner of Police, Tunde Ogunsakin said operatives acted based on a report by the family of one of their victims, Olaseinde that he had been kidnapped. “When his family waited for him and could not reach him,they lodged a complaint and I instructed the officer in charge of Anti Kidnapping, CSP Akan to hunt for the missing father of two. Through Intelligence gathering, we were able to arrest the gang .

They led us to Ebubu, Eleme, in Rivers state at an abandoned Shell pipeline borrowed pit where the corpse of Shola was lying decomposed. Ogunsakin said the suspects posed as women in most of these love dating site. As soon as they lured their victim, they would arrange a meeting. The lady’s duty is to meet with the men who are normally very rich. As soon as they get them, she will lure them to a secluded place and alert members of their gang. They would come and tie the person and then go ahead to withdraw money from his account through ATM”.

*I hope after this, the stubborn husbands will change*

IS THIS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

My peeps, just got this mail from a female reader and she is asking a serious 'exam' question. With her permission, I have decided to post it and hear your views on her situation.

Dear NHW,

I have been following your posts and must say it is fast becoming addictive for me. You have built so much confidence in me and somehow opened my eyes to a lot of things in my marriage.

I am writing concerning a previous post of yours where you talked about Domestic Violence. I have been married for close to 3 years now but no child yet (waiting on the Lord). I am now questioning the way my husband plays with me.

We or should I say I am the playful type. Before we got married, when playing, me and my husband, we would throw pillows at ourselves and sometimes chase each other round the house. And when he catches me, he would tickle me and slap my face gently, on both cheeks until I beg him to stop.

This kind of play continued until we got married and I noticed that the play has graduated to something else! But despite the change, I will still continue playing along. When he chases me round the house and manages to catch me, he would lift me up and throw me hard on the bed, sometime,  even pushing me so hard against the wall. I would beg him to stop that I am not interested anymore but instead, he will pull my hair and turn me viciously hard against him. By then I would be in pain, begging him to stop. He wouldn't.  He will then sometimes twist my arm so hard until I cried.  I won't lie, I am always scared during this time.

The last one he did, landed me in LUTH. Up till now, I can't really say what happened or how it did. I remember we were playing as usual and then I saw myself outside our one-storey building. I fractured my arms, a leg and hip. He stayed with me through out my hospital admission begging and crying for forgiveness.

After I was discharged,  my parents took me back to their house, saying that our relationship was not a healthy or normal one.

Please, NHW, for my own peace of mind and to know if I should take him back, would you call this his behaviour Domestic Violence?  I need to know so that I don't end up like other women who have died in their marriages.

*Hian, O! I don't know what to answer my love. It's not normal sha. You and him need to see a psychologist fast. And u need prayers too. Some people might think both of you are possessed! *

Over to you my honourable readers...

BEST CEREAL FOR WEIGHT LOSS

Oatmeal!!

Yep, delicious oatmeal! Oatmeal is widely known to keep you from piling those pounds!

It has a large amount of fibre that keeps the hunger away for as long as 6 hrs. The good thing about this meal is that you can eat it at any time of the day apart from breakfast.

*The only problem I have with this food is that I still have to get up and cook it on the cooker or microwave.  Why don't they have the ready-to-eat ones like 'Hollandia' custard*?

THE 'DISEASES' SOME HUSBANDS SUFFER FROM!

You know the funny thing about marriage? When you marry your spouse, you marry them without any form of ailment. After a few years, that spouse especially the husband starts developing  some sort of should I say 'debilitating disease (s)'.

Let me show you examples of some of the diseases they suffer from (some of you may recognise 1 or more of the problems):

The first picture is what some of you might call 'Claw Hand' and you find this condition in husbands who are stingy and or do not help their wives in domestic matters. No matter how you massage the hand, it remains like that except through divine intervention or surgical procedures!

The second picture is a case of 'blindness'. A lot of husbands suffer from this whether spiritual, physical, emotional or social blindness. The ones that have spiritual blindness block their minds to reasoning. They are the ones that do contrary to God's teachings and don't listen to their wives #itooknows . The ones that have physical blindness are the ones that don't know how to search for things around the house even when it is staring at them in the face. Meanwhile they would have made the house hot because they are searching for something!  Emotional blindness happens to those husbands who refuse to accept that their wives or relatives are 'evil' or they keep entering 'one chance' girlfriends. Social blindness happens to those husbands who don't know how to choose friends that will impact positively in their lives or when (what to)to drink.

The third picture shows a crippled man. Trust me, some husbands are 'crippled'! You may see arms, legs and eyes attached (especially the TDH ones) but they are really crippled! These are husbands who don't and can't do anything for themselves.  Their wives are the ones that do the running around...The hustling. *I cover my eyes in shame* . These men are the 'living dead'! Their wives are short of spoon feeding them or wearing diapers for them.

Well, what can I say...just keep tabling their matter to God. I will try and join you in the 100 days fast (we can even attempt 200days)!

SEE THE HAVOC CAUSED BY THE RAIN!

Hi guys, I should have posted this yesterday but never had the time to ( too much faaji!)

It rained yesterday for a few minutes but it felt like "All hell was let loose"! See the havoc caused by the rain. #endtimez

We should start watching and praying. These trees could have fallen on someone or on a car!

NOW, IT'S PAY BACK TIME!

Something funny and weird happened to me yesterday night. I just have to tell you guys about it.

I have this daughter ( my last kid) who is 5 years and some, whom I have been trying to evacuate from my room since she turned 2 years old! But she just refused to budge. :-l

I or rather we ('cos her father was involved)have tried everything we could to get her out; from having a 'conference' with her and her older siblings so as to work out an 'evacuation' plan to putting up her picture on my dp (BBM) so as to publicly 'humiliate' her, to screeching at her, to openly abusing her, to lifting her back to her room in the middle of the night! We have even issued out threats of putting her situation out there on YouTube!  Her siblings even threatened to tell her friends at school and she would retort "I don't care!" These we did consistently and persistently for 3 and a half years!

* we no try?!*

Well, all my daughter had to say to all these was,"Mummy, Daddy, don't worry, I'll leave when I am 5 years old,"....Waaat?! And she was only 3 years old when she delivered the speech and it was none negotiable!  My husband and I looked at each other and thought...We can pull through this, we just had to! After-all, her being 5 years old was just a few months away! #inyourdreamz

My baby turned 5 years old last September and I remember telling her "Don't forget your promise O!" "I know", she replied with a straight face. * wetin consign me, all I know is dat Ghana musto go!*

You know guys, this gial refused to go O! She would hang around the door of our room like a dark cloud or a bad viral infection!  Until you are forced to let her in! I don't even know why I bothered  with the contraceptive sef...has the chic not lasted in my room as long as the contraceptive? She was already our contraceptive!

Anyway, this problem fast became a 'prayer point' and she would even answer "Amen" to that.  We knew our daughter had to leave one day when, I and her Dad wanted to 'study' and her Dad lifted her up forcefully and took her to her room. Do you know that for the first time, I witnessed a real life tantrum! She developed sudden 'breathing' problems, coughing with tears in her eyes...all these was so that we could allow her stay. I fell for it O! But my husband refused to fall O! He maintained his stance and even issued her a serious warning never to sleep in our room or she would face the consequences! 

Since then, we have had no 'intruders'...but you see, it's only been 5 days, so do you think it's too soon for me to jubilate? But I have never had a straight 5 days! :-/

Anyway to cut matter short, we had issues with the AC plug in our room and me, I couldn't manage a hot room for just 1 night. So I decided to stay in my daughter's room (which was enviably chilled) for the night! She refused O! She said I was too old to be staying in her room! I couldn't believe my ears! I was at her mercy O!

"Mummy, don't worry, it's just for the night!" I said to her.
"No mummy, it's PAY BACK TIME!" she replied with a sneer, sounding like all those evil things in vampire movies.

I just hissed and found meself a space to lay me head. And that is how I slept...And well.

Have I not suffered?!  *wide-eyed*

QUIZ: IS YOUR MARRIAGE HEALTHY?

Good morning peeps!

With all that has been going on lately in most marriages, I felt there is a need for all involved in this thing called 'Marriage', to step back and closely, as well as, critically examine our spouses, who all of a sudden deliver a surprise 'package'. I don't think change in marital situations occur suddenly. It is the other spouse, who for reasons best known to him/her, failed to notice the change over time.

This is not a time to be sitting and be dulling! Shine your eyes O and start reading the writings on the wall! It is not written anywhere that somebody should die inside a dead marriage. In fact, it even becomes more hazardous for both parties when they decide to endure each other. The word 'Endure' says it all. There is a limit to what anybody can endure (when you are not God) because after a while, it only takes a little thing before the 'cord' snaps.

A lot of  couples have tried to give me reasons why a spouse would go to the extent of killing his partner without thinking about. But what I tried to do is to compile a list of questions one should be asking him/herself about how healthy their marriage is. One needs to start noticing the cracks in a marriage for one to be able to determine the outcome of that marriage. It is when you are blind to all these cracks, that you are given the rudest shock of your life!

First of all, I hope you all know that the foundation of a healthy marriage are:
1. God
2. Communication
3. Mutual Respect
4. Trust

Now the Quiz:

• What can you say you like and admire about your spouse?
• Is your spouse happy with your choice of friends?
• Is your spouse excited about your accomplishments or job?
• Does your spouse ask for and respect your opinion?
• Does your spouse have a good relationship with other members of your family?
• Does your spouse listen (not just hearing) to you when you talk?
• Does your spouse take responsibility for his/her actions and not blame you for his/her failures?
• Does your spouse respect your right to make decisions that affect your life?
• Are you guys friends? Best friends?

Now if you answered 'Yes' to most, if not all, the questions, then you are most likely not in an abusive marriage or one that is likely to become abusive. If you answered 'No' in most of the questions, then it's time to evaluate your spouse's mental state!

Now the Quiz:

• When your spouse gets angry, does he/she start breaking things?
• Does your spouse lose his/her temper easily?
• Is your spouse jealous of your friends or family?
• Does your spouse think you are cheating on him/her anytime you speak to someone on the phone, at work?
• Does your spouse take drugs or gets drunk almost everyday?
• Does your spouse ridicule or puts you down anywhere and at anytime?
• Does your spouse hit you?
• Do you hate yourself when you are with your spouse?
• Are you always afraid of your spouse?

If you answered 'Yes' to almost everything, then it is time to think of your safety! Don't die in that marriage or else you will become a 'statistics'!

So, you can see that the ball is in your court. If you like, keep living in denial. Person no dey die two times!

DIDN'T REMEMBER TO FORGET YOU!

I have come to the conclusion that I am not a normal doctor. You may wonder why? I will tell you why... I leave my house everyday for work hoping to treat clients with regular clinical problems but all I end up doing is treating heartaches, broken marriages and relationships, as well as troubled parents with troubled kids!! What da heck! Now my nurses refer to me as 'The Love Doctor'!

After what happened today, Ehm! ...I don't think I will wonder again! Mehn! My ears are full with all sorts of stories.  Let me just go ahead and share with you guys...

A lady walked into my office with somewhat of a flat affect. Hoping to hear the regular "Oh doctor! I have a headache and my tummy hurts real bad", what I get instead is "Yeh, doctor! I am in hot soup! I am finished! I am done for! Please I need your help!" While saying this, she is hold my hands across the table. And I'm thinking "Ok...now this is getting really weird!" Just as I am about to gently tell her how broke I was  (because I am thinking this has got to be about money)since I hear that almost all the time , she blurts out,"Doctor, I called my ex's name while making love to my husband!" I didn't even know when i shouted blood of Jesus! My matron had to rush to my office to check if everything was okay.

This gist was too hot not to explore!  *O sweet Lord, I love my job! *

 The lady explained that even though she loved her husband, she secretly still dreams of her ex. She couldn't marry him because of the genotype wahala. Her constant communication with him was not even helping matters.  He is married with kids but they are still very much in touch. If she's broke, he is just a call away and he credits her account. If she is sad and needs someone to talk to, he is just a call away. If she has good news to share, it's him...always him. How can she help not staying in love with him!

The more she communicated with him, the more she dreamt of him, so much so that while her husband was making out with her last night, at the peak of the excitement,  she screamed his name, not once or twice but thrice!!! *Yikes! I thought this only happened in movies or Mills and Boon...O well!

Well, you can imagine what happened next... Presently, my client is squatting at a friend's place whose husband does not reside in Lagos. Her husband threw her things out especially since she couldn't explain why she called someone else s name! *Now this is the part that disgusts me...why is the wife always expected to forgive and forget while her husband, carries on with his philandering! Smh!!*

I sympathised with her but had to ask her,"Please, where do I come in in all of these?!" According to her, she came to get prescriptions that would help her sleep and was hoping to get me call her husband and beg on her behalf! Hian!

I have been trying the man's number O! but he has chosen to ignore all calls. My guess is that, my client has probably asked everyone in her village and yard, not to mention church members to 'kill' her husband's battery! Lol! 

MOTHER CHOOSES UNBORN BABY OVER CANCER

After reading the heart-wrenching story about a mother who had to sacrifice her life to deliver her baby, I thought to myself..." What is the point of having a baby, when you won't be alive to take care of it?!" Is it a must for the woman to have that baby herself? When she could have got a 'surrogate carrier' (a woman who volunteers to carry your pregnancy for you).

This lady who was diagnosed with an early stage of cancer and was asked to do an MRI ( a highly invasive type of X-ray ), found out that she was pregnant. If she went ahead and did the MRI, it would destroy her baby in the womb and she would stand a chance of getting cured. She decided to save the baby and refused the MRI. She was a first time mom and wanted to have the experience and give her child a chance to live. By the time she delivered her baby in January, the cancer had spread and to a point beyond control and cure. She died in March but the baby lives. 

I am not happy about the decision this woman took...at all. I have friends who had to terminate their pregnancy because at the same time, it was discovered that they had cancer of the breast. Kia, Kia, they did not hesitate to remove the pregnancy. Lol!... Life is just too sweet to die because of baby! Even though these my friends have not explored the option of getting someone to help them carry their baby. Don't mind them, I think it's ignorance worrying them. They think the baby will then not be theirs, that it will bear the 'carrier's' blood. But they are plain wrong, what my friends do not know is that, The carrier is just a carrier! The baby is not the woman's own but got from fertilizing their eggs with their husbands' sperm and then transferred to the 'carrier's' womb. So what the carrier will just be providing for the baby to survive is oxygen and nutrition! At the end of the day, you have your life and the baby, living as one happy family. You think I am lying? Look at Guiliana, that E-news host( or is it hostess)!

My point is that, if you know you have been diagnosed with early stage cancer which stands a chance being cured and you are pregnant,please don't play 'Hero' and keep the pregnancy (which worsens the situation)...get it out and then explore other options of having your baby. #God forbid that any of us will come to the point of having to choose because of cancer. It is not our portion in Jesus name. Amen.

On the other hand, if it is your destiny to die this way, please ...be my guest!

COUPLES WASHING THEIR DIRTY PANTS IN PUBLIC!

Good morning my people.

I really didn't want to blog about this, but it's now becoming a thing of fashion for couples whose marriages are in trouble to bring their fight to social media...And then finish it well!  Lol! It's like killing someone many times because it's the person's word against yours. So you either choose to ignore or you set up a panel of judges on social media to judge the case or better still, you guys should continue to wash the linen (pant in this case) with 'OMO' until it is clean and bright.

I brought this issue up so that we can collectively deliberate on it! Is this a normal thing to do?

I am sure by now, you guys would have heard about the Actor/Producer/Scriptwriter, Tchidi Chikere's failed marriage with wife Sophia, which also produced 3 beuriful and Hanson boys. Tchidi left this his wife and married a fellow actress, Nutella Nuella. As if that was not bad enough, he took to twitter some days ago and 'washed' his ex wife, calling her all sorts of names. And of course, his ex wife had to reply ...she didn't want to go down without a fight.

Only God knows where Nuella was when all these drama was happening! Couldn't she have controlled 'her' man?! My guess is that maybe she was beside him, telling him what to write! I mean, c'mon!  If Tchidi claims to be as happy with his new wife, should he be revisiting the past at all? Tell me, should he?! As for me, na guilty conscience dey worry am! So he has to by all means justify leaving his wife for another beyond reasonable doubt.

I feel sorry for the new bride, she should have ensured that her husband married her out of love and not out of anger! She go hear am. It's obvious that these exs have feelings for each other, whether anger, hatred or love...all na feelings. If Tchidi wanted to open a new chapter, he should have done that on a clean slate. Who are they fooling ( Tchidi and Sophia)? If you leave them in a room to settle,  the kind love making that will erupt from it ehn? !...It will be hotter than a volcano!  #unfinishedbusiness

Please, I want to plead with couples going through stormy times and intending to break up, stop setting a bad example for other couples. We only want to see and hear about how you celebrate each other on social media, so that others will be motivated to repair theirs. Before you say "Jack Robinson", some might want to continue this distasteful trend!

Tchidi and Nuella, face your marriage! You and Sophia should settle out of media or court.

*Tchidi, so you think what Sophia is asking for in court is too much? After 'enjoying' her for many years so tey she bear 3 fruits, you are saying you shouldn't pay abi?! What if another person cannot enjoy her because she is 'after 3'?! As in Tokunbo raise to power 3. Hehehehe*

TOTS N' COTS CELEBRATES MOTHERS DAY

Tots 'n' Cots Preschool, located at No 24, Abiodun Odeseye street, Harmony Estate, Ifako-Gbagada, celebrated mothers on the 29th of March. It was a day filled with fun and excitement!

Trust that your sister was invited as a guest speaker. I gave a talk on "PARENTING: Raising Our Kids in an 'Internet' Age". I felt honoured to be in the midst of mothers who had a lot of experiences to share.

The event was well organized; the kids performed, sang various songs in different languages and of course, parents were not left out of the fun. Some mothers came out to share their skills in various fields such as learning the art of make up and tying Gele. Parents were taught how to teach their kids proper pronunciation of letters. 

Just when I thought I had had enough, check out the 'dilish' meal (2 course for that matter!) I was served!     *tongue sticking out*

Pictures below....

That's me talking!!

See them, listening with so much attention!

Parents learning Phonics







                                                                   
                                                                   

Dr Chioma talking about Immunization







                                                                   
                                                                                                                                             

Kudos to the Proprietress, Mrs Erica Chikwendu. You have done very well

Tots 'n' Cots is just like home away from home. 

ABEG! DON'T CRITICISE UNLESS YOU HAVE A SOLUTION!

Why is it that some husbands have a 'PhD' in criticizing their wives?! And not just criticizing O!...negatively criticizing! They are fast to see your wrongs and weaknesses but won't give you solutions or alternatives!

They almost always end their speech with "Anyway, let me not just talk". Okay, now you have opened your mouth and talked, give us an alternative, they suddenly go deaf and dumb!

If you know you don't have anything to say, please 'hang it' nooowww! It is not by force that your voice must be heard. #MrITooKnowAndTooDo

Some of you derive joy in public bashing and making snide remarks about what your wife did or did not do. When will you learn that negative criticism can be a wedge that you can drive into your marriage. And I believe you know the function of a 'wedge'.

So on a final note, anytime you notice something wrong in what your wife does or says, as soon as you are criticizing, you are giving an alternative solution.