WHO IS THE REAL BREADWINNER?!

This is one question on the mind of most women especially the married ones. It is when most women enter the marriage contract that they realise say "story don change". The koko of the matter is "Please, who is the main the main breadwinner?"

I have noticed that a lot of Nigerian women like to fool themselves. Initially, in the early part of the marriage when the love is still shacking the woman, she goes all out to do everything financially possible, just to put a 'smile' on her husband's face, heart and mind! She may continue this unknowingly for as long as she stays in that marriage...and then suddenly, she will just wake up from that her self-induced coma and realise she has been 'shouldering' the family for as long as 10years and then, maybe it is beginning to tell on her, mentally and physically.

You know what pains me about this whole nonsense, while the woman is busy running from pillar to post trying to gather what the family will thrive on, the so-called husband will be busy sprawled on the couch or on his bed, either reading the papers, watching TV or plucking his untamed hairs on his face. In short, the man will be glowing like a young boy about town while the wife starts to look like his older sister or aunt.

Please fellow wives, there is nothing wrong in assisting your husband in ensuring that the family is taken care of. There is nothing wrong in taking position especially when your husband is out of job or his business is experiencing hiccups. After all, no be for better for worse we sign?

Just when I was asking myself what these women are truly feeling for their husbands especially if they are forced to take up their husbands' responsibility, I came across an article by Stella Dimoko, where she was wondering about the same thing. Stella, you be winch? How you take read my mind?

Believe you me, there is no way a woman will still feel that love for her husband, not to mention respect. For me, that is the true test of being a man...the ability to stand up to your responsibilities and not those balls between your legs!

This is what Alibaba wrote on his Facebook page:

''THE PLACE ANY MAN SHOULD NOT LET HIMSELF GET TO IS THAT POSITION WHERE A WOMAN BELIEVES YOU REPRESENT NOTHING TO HER. WHEN THEY GET THERE, IT'S USUALLY A POINT OF NO RETURN. GUYS BE GUIDED.

YESTERDAY, I MET A HARD WORKING LADY WHO HAS PICKED UP THE BILLS FOR HER FAMILY FOR 9 YEARS OF THEIR 10 YRS RELATIONSHIP. SHE SAID, DRENCHED IN TEARS, HE DISGUSTS ME, HE DOESNT TURN ME ON, I DONT RESPECT HIM, I EXPECT NOTHING OF HIM, HE HAS NO AMBITION, HE DOESNT WANT TO GET A JOB, HE BORROWS FROM ME, HE STEALS MY MONEY, HE KNOWS ALL VERSES IN THE BIBLE, HE DOESNT DRESS WELL, HIS VOICE ANNOYS ME, I WISH HIM DEAD...

SO AGAIN I SAY, GUYS, DONT LET YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS GET TO A POINT WHERE A WOMAN SEES YOU AS NOTHING... THEN IT'S OVER''

These are the one-million dollar exam questions Stella Dimoko put out for we wives to answer and please we have to be sincere to ourselves...

1. When a woman is the breadwinner in a family is it true that she loses all respect for her man?

2. Men who provide for their wives without jobs,is it the same disgust they feel?

3. Please are you in this condition at home?can you tell us how you feel being the sole provider in your home?

4. If you and your spouse both work,how do you swap the house keeping money?

Some women like to suffer sha! Instead of these women to look for who to confide in, they bottle up all the negative  feelings they have for their spouse. These feelings can affect them negatively, psychologically and physically and that is why I still maintain that they should confide in someone who can counsel them, so that they retain their glow or youthfulness. Hian!

 But if you think deeply about the matter, you no go blame them, because after all the wahala they go through for this man, some of these possessed men will still be beating them, cheating on them or go to the extent of marrying another wife!

May we never find ourselves in this situation and for those in it, smile...Jesus loves you. He will give you wisdom to handle your lazy husband.

Please comment, all you wives that like gist and advice your fellow sister. No siddon look!