CLUES YOU MAY BE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG PERSON

This post is for all my unmarried sisters in a budding relationship. Please, you need to take time to shine your eyes!

Don't settle for less just because you want to answer 'Mrs'. I have taken time to research answers to some of your questions. Feel free to share your comments.

Enjoy your read....

People are wired to respond positively to being tantalized. The smell of buttered popcorn as you stroll into a movie theater. The jingle of coins from slot machines as you walk through a casino. The promise of flattering attention and acceptance from advertisements about the latest fashion. But, of course, not all that catches our attention is good for us.

The same is true of the come hither look of a sexy man or woman. Or even the cat-and-mouse games that so often entice people into relationships. So, it’s
important to know when you are attracted to the wrong person. You might need
to think twice if the person:

-Has no close friends: Even if his or her acquaintances abound, pay attention
to the lack of emotionally close relationships. While there might be a good
reason for this emotional isolation, it would be in your best interests to be
alert to this possible sign of the person having difficulty with intimacy.

-Lacks insight about him- or herself: Someone who does not understand and
cannot (or will not) articulate their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs will be
limited in their ability to share in an open, emotionally connected way.

-Fails to acknowledge mistakes or limitations: Beware of someone who is
defensive and unable to tolerate acknowledging their part in difficulties in
their life and in their relationships. Just as they are unable to accept their
own flaws, they will be unlikely to accept yours – making it difficult to work
out problems and differences between you.

-Is a poor communicator: Because good communication is the hallmark of
emotionally close relationships, poor communicators have difficulty nurturing
such relationships. They also lack the skills to talk through disagreements.

-Fails to show you respect and appreciation: Without these basics, no
relationship can possibly make you happy.

-Fails to show an interest in getting to know you: Even after the initial
exciting days of a relationship, partners in healthy, happy relationships
continue to show an interest in (and are supportive of) each other’s
thoughts, feelings, interests, and activities.

-Is not ready for a relationship: Healthy long-term relationships are created
through caring and effort. This means that both partners must be prepared
to give the relationship the time and attention it needs to flourish.

By recognizing that the person who looked like a “great catch” is, in reality, not
such a great choice for you, you can avoid many frustrations. You won’t end up
wasting your time in a situation that likely won’t come out well. It also enables
you to move on quickly, giving you an opportunity to find the partner of your
dreams, rather than getting stuck in a recurring nightmare.

Now, do you get the picture?!

Culled from WebMD