LONELY WIVES CLUB (PART 1)

Do you feel married but single? Do you feel like a co-tenant in your matrimonial home? Your husband feels like a 'he is just there' kind of person. Day in day out, you guys don't really talk let alone your husband asking you how your day was! You might just be a member of  LONELY WIVES CLUB!! Hehehe!

I stumbled on this article and thought I should share (Na only God go help me make I no fall one day as I dey so so stumble stumble!). The article will be in three parts...Let me know if you like it and then I will send in the remaining ones.

Whether your man is away on business, plays a lot of golf, or -- worse yet -- is just sitting there and not connecting with you, relationships can seem mighty lonely at times. Perhaps you feel like a place holder in his life. The kids are taken care of, the house is clean, dates are made to see friends, but you don't feel he hears you when you talk, or empathizes with your problems, or supports you in your dreams and plans. Perhaps you don't do things together, or you always do what he wants to do, or you feel you've wasted hours in front of bad television.

"One reason loneliness is so common," says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, author of five books on love and relationships, and professor of sociology at the University of Washington, "is that women are used to the level of communication you get from girlfriends." she says. "Girlfriends listen with interest and compassion. No matter how good a guy is, the comparison with female companionship is so pale that women feel alone. And we have such romantic expectations. We tried to find a soul mate, but we're often so far from that."

But there are solutions short of divorce. First, try to define why you feel lonely. Are you lonely because your guy isn't around? Or do you feel isolated even when he is? In either scenario, understanding the reasons for the loneliness is Step One.

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