LOL! WIFE MEETS MISTRESS!

Are you one of those wives that suspect your husband might be cheating on you? And if you do, do you wish you knew who the she was and see if she measures up to standard? Or do you pray to catch your husband in his web of lies?

OMG! That is exactly what happened to my friend over the weekend. Lol! My friend has always suspected her husband was cheating on her. Somehow, she felt his recent affair was different. She knows that he gets involved in flings once in a while and leaves these women bitter at the end of the day. She gets involved in some of the bitter ends because some of these women trace him all the way home! For the past 1year, she has been having this gut-feeling that he has been seeing a particular person and that my dear, is not a good sign for her. It means her territory is being threatened. 

Anyway to cut story short, she met the supposed rival in a beauty shop. She noticed the lady was wearing a customized diamond necklace that her husband was supposed to have exchanged for another in his last trip to Italy. She summoned up courage and went to question the lady. Lo and behold! She knew her husband. Anyways, my friend introduced herself as his wife but our dear rival refused to believe her saying that her husband told her he was divorced and that the only thing connecting both of them was their 7year old son. Wow! The bottom line sha, was that both the mistress and the wife found out that 'their husband' had been fooling himself and not them. 

The worst part of the deceit is that his birthday is fast approaching and the con-man is planning to celebrate it differerently with both ladies. The problem now is that, both the wife and mistress are now planning to hold a surprise party for him where all his 'wayo' will be exposed...and in a very bad way in front of family and friends! Chai! I pity this guy O! 

I hope I don't forget to give you an update of what goes down because that party I gats to attend!

WHY ARE WOMEN SO NAIVE?!

I just don't get! I have tried in so many ways to analyze the naivety of women, but I haven't been able to come up with any concrete result.

Just yesterday,  I met a woman who appeared to be in her late 40s but guess what?...she is just 37years old. She had such great command of English and I wondered how she ended up being a hospital maid!

She had lines of sadness, hoplessness and 'lovelessness' on her face and then I thought to myself..."she must be a victim of circumstances". I was moved to share her story because I know a lot of women out there might be going through the same thing.

Well, this woman in question is a victim of 2 failed marriages. In the 1st situation, she met a man who deceived her with words of love and then she was working in a good company with a fantastic salary. She earned more than him (the 1st husband O!). He deceived her into marrying her. She got the house in which they lived in and paid the rents. She fed the family ( she had a son for him). This her 1st husband convinced her into opening a joint account of which he was the sole signatory to the account! 

Everything was going on fine or so she thought until one-day she was involved in a road traffic accident that almost took her life and she was bedridden for about 2months. During the time of her incarceration,  this so called husband was involved in a steamy affair with her housemaid who got pregnant for him. All that time, everyone new of the recent development except her. Chai! She was soon discharged home. She hadn't even spent 1week at home when her husband packed all his things and said he was done with the marriage and that he was getting married to their maid! God saved her that she no die from shock. Of course, the man stole all she ever saved, as in, he wiped her account.

Well in the bid to recover and start a new life, she lost her job, maybe because of the long hospital stay. Anyway, she had to leave her son with her ex-husband to pick up the pieces. She eventually got a job in a federal institution as a maid! I asked why since she had all the qualification.  She said she was advised to do so in the meantime before she gets an upgrade. O ma se O!

Trust nah, she fell victim again but this time a security man in that institution! Is she a learner?! Kai! Falling in love with someone who can barely take care of himself! Guess what? You got it right...she got pregnant for him and eventually had a son. As I speak, the man hasn't dropped a dime for child support even since she got pregnant!  The child is now 2years old and hasn't met his father, not because she prevented him but because he is running from responsibility. Yeye fowl!

The koko of the matter is that the 'retarded' (no apologies for the insult) woman is presently depressed.  She says there is a need for the child to know his father because of the future. True but not compulsory.  The man in question who works in the same place as she, has not made any attempt to know his child or even ask of his wellbeing. Why bother introduce the child to him when there is no financial gain! What the child needs is money for child support not just 'looking' and saying "yes, he's mine!". Mscheww!

Finally,  another thing that pushed her further into depression is that she just found out from her 12year son (who is her 1st child) that her ex-husband had duped her. She said the man called her oneday while she was at work that her son was seriously ill and had been admitted at a hospital in Ibadan. This man took money for admission,  drugs and feeding from her for 2 whole weeks leaving her penniless. Only for her to find out from her son much later that it was all a lie. He had never been seriously ill or admitted for any reason! I was speechless. 

Now you see, when I say we women are naive creatures, I talk lie?...but why?

SECRETS OF A HAPPY COUPLE

I don't understand couples who say they are too busy or too tired to spend time together. Unless they are building roads all day or running a multi-national corporation, they have only just lost sight of priorities.

If you wish to stay connected and happy in your marriage, my advice to couples is to never be too tired or too busy to rekindle the love for your partner. When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall the days and nights you guys spent quarelling instead of making love!
Here are some useful tips.
1. The most important thing for any couple trying to get along is to think before you speak. If you are bickering and find that you are getting angry, take a deep breath and change course, and ask your partner to do the same.

2. If you want your relationship to survive and to thrive, you will have to train yourself to focus most of your attention on the person you have sworn to love till death do you part. When your sweetheart comes into the room, whether it's just from taking care of some chores in the home or from a long day at work, your job is to verbally express how much you love him or her. Don't keep the feeling inside. Trust me, those words "I love you" go a long way.

3. Some people have affairs because they tell themselves that they deserve more attention than they get at home. Or maybe they get annoyed because they feel that all of their needs aren't getting met by their partner. Well, whoever told them that one person could meet their every need? You can actually live quite comfortably without having all of your needs met. Just be content and No 'Oju kokoro'!

4. Always keep in mind that "You are not perfect, and neither is your partner", but you can make a very pleasant life together if you are both serious about providing the love and support that go along with a marriage.

5. It's true that when babies start arriving, there isn't much time left for romantic gestures. But the wonderful thing about romance is that it is the quality, never the quantity, that matters. So when the baby is sleeping or not just in the way, couples can create some quality time together like they can write love notes to each other and slip them in between the clean diapers. Just be creative and you will see how your love will flourish.

6. Couples should try and be open about their financial status. So this means that if you have any financial secrets you are keeping from your partner, you must put them on the table. Doesn't that sound scary? I am sure it does, but as with so many unpleasant things that only get bigger and stronger in the dark, these secrets have a funny way of shrinking in the light of the truth.
Being open will help your wife or husband be less demanding or be less expectant of you financially.  There will be better planning.

7. I think the place where good marriages break down is when one or both parties begin to take the other person for granted. For example when husbands come home from work and ignore their wives who have stayed up for them, by watching TV and they claim that they are trying to relax! There is a difference between relaxing and disengagement. That example given is disengagement!

8. Please keep your anger in check. When one is angry, regrettable words are used, words that can't be taken back. Try not to deliberately hurt your loved ones during these 'evil' moments!

If you have more tips, you can add yours...